Category: Life

The Day the Internet Died

reason 8 Fresh EyesIn a way, I envied her.  She didn’t own a computer. She had a cell phone for three months but never used it.  She told her kids to take it back.  She had time to read and do crafts, take long walks, and go to lunch with friends.  She attended live lectures, went to the library, enjoyed museums, picnics at the park, and face-to-face conversations with her grandchildren, who squirmed much of the time, unused to talking without a keyboard and a computer screen as part of the interaction. She could see the kids’ expressions, touch their knees or hands, and help them understand social interplay the old-fashioned way.

Mrs. Manfred didn’t need a computer and didn’t use email or instant messages. She wrote notes to people, did her banking inside the bank, visited friends, and had the bridge club at her house once a month. The book club was on the third Thursday of the month, bridge club on the second Tuesday, and baby quilters on the fourth Friday.  Mrs.M. volunteered at the local hospital stuffing envelopes and helping the cooks put little white cups on the trays for the patients.  She wore a hairnet sometimes, and gloves and an apron for other jobs.  The apron came down to the floor, and the extra small gloves hung off her tiny hands like a four-year-old dressing up in her mom’s clothes. The hairnet was a big blue surgical hat. The hospital purchased them at a huge discount in the tens of thousands, making Mrs. M look like a cross between a blue mushroom, and a very short chef. Her died red hair poked out from under the blue hat, clown style.

She laughed easily. She had a razor-sharp mind and a heart of expanding elastic, especially for children.  Her favorite volunteer work was reading to kids in hospitals, schools, churches, and libraries.  It was becoming a lost art, and she cried when the safety laws required that she wear a badge, get fingerprinted, TB tested, and background checked all so she could have an “aide” in the room while she read to the kids. 

“All I want to do is entertain and teach the children,” she said. The laws had changed, the world had changed, the people had changed.  It became too much of a hassle for her and eventually, she had to cut way back because they couldn’t find the “aide” person. In fact, when she gave up driving for Lent one year, her daughter couldn’t get her to the hospitals, and she had to stop for a few days. It was a loss for the kids and left a huge void in Mrs. M’s wonderfully abundant heart.

When cell phones stopped working, and the internet coughed and faded for a 24 hour period. Mrs. Manfred’s life did not change at all, except the people in the retirement home came down to the central meeting room in a trickle at first and then in a steady stream. Finally, they arrived in a torrent, and the room was awash in blue hairs so that the chattering and laughing brought life back into the home that usually served as the quiet waiting area for an appointment with Death. New acquaintances became fast friends. The internet could stay broken forever as far as they were concerned.

Alas, the internet came back on the next day, and Death and his friend Depression resumed their march. The spell was broken, which ironically spelled a loss for humanity.

Mrs. M. resumed her rounds, but with a little more fervor. She would try very hard to keep things as they had always been. No cell phones. No internet. Just her and her red hair. I envied her. Yes, I did.

Death on Earth

Death on Earth

Death wakes up. Disoriented.

“Where am I?” she whispers to the cracked dingy walls.

From the open window, the aroma of freshly baked bread wafts in from the nearby bakeshop, followed immediately by stale urine odors rising from the alley three floors below. She stretches and then remembers. She’s no longer a female. She’s no longer a powerful part of the team in Heaven. And she is no longer Death. She’s a human on Earth, her body reeks of New York summer humid, and her mouth tastes the bitterness of her predicament.

Sitting up and running her palm across the scratchy morning chin stubble, she says for the millionth time, “Why did I ever let the Trinity talk me into this?”

SAFE IS RISKY

SAFE IS RISKY

In Tom Peters’s book The Pursuit of WOW (Every Person’s Guide to Topsy-Turvy Times), he asserts via Bob Pressman, Co-CEO of Barneys, that ‘safe is risky.’ In other words… same old same old doesn’t excite anyone. Those people and companies that look the same and act the same as everyone else are not safe these days. Kodak. Blockbuster Video. (WHO!?)…Lol.

By always playing it safe, we can remain invisible. By keeping our heads down, our eyes diverted, we don’t have to face risk. And we will be “safe.”

There is no safe place. Covid taught us that.

So… the better course is to be vulnerable and take the risk. Hang it out there. And slide into the Home Plate of life with some righteous and wonderful bruises from fighting the good fight. 

Seth Godin in the altMBA would tell you, “Everything costs.”

The risk of being safe is not living fully. Which stinks.

Safe. Is. Risky.

NOTE: Image compliments of Pexels Free Photos.

The Coat of Me

The Coat of Me

What color is my coat?

Green?

No. I do not like green.
But is it magic? Yes.
Wool? No.
Waterproof? Yes, when it needs to be.
Hurt-proof? Yes, when it can be.
(For without water or hurt, we do not grow.)
Warm? In winter or when I want it to be.
Buttons? Yes. Big FUN buttons.
What does it remind me of? My mom.
How does it make me feel? Authentic.
The best thing about it? It is my only coat! I don’t need twelve.

It has an endlessness to it. A timelessness. I wore it young and I wear it old. It is young Kathryn. Old Kathryn. All Kathryns: Daughter. Sister, Wife, Mom. Friend. ‘Nonna’ (grandmother).

My coat is like a second skin.
Aching to not sin.
Or break shins.
It is committed to begin
Living an open, shutterless life on the Island of Gunga Din.
Which is not real, but it could be. Why not?

My coat mon manteau, mon peau (my coat, my skin)
Wakes as me in the morning.
She has beautiful intentions. Her day is hers.
And then, one by one, her buttons fall off. Her pockets tear.
Wait. I was just there.
Where?
There. With dark hair. That was then. This is now.
My coat and my hair have lost their luster. Did the magic coat lose its magic? No. It lost its way. But that’s okay.
Because
It will be back.
Today.

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Personal Board of Directors

Personal Board of Directors

Do you have a “Personal Board of Directors”?

I have seen the idea in the Wall Street Journal and am considering the power of same. It’s also another interpretation of the phrase:

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with, [including yourself].”

~ Jim Rohn (motivational speaker)

I chose to borrow the slight addition [including yourself] to the Jim Rohn quote (hat tip to https://personalexcellence.co/blog/average-of-5-people/) because I agree. WE are alas, one of those peeps we cannot evade, avoid, or distance from as much as we’d like to sometimes.

I’m pondering a board of directors. Whom would I ask? Like dating. What if they say no?

If I choose to stay in ponder land, I will be safe but stuck. Hoping to unstick soon.

If you have a personal board of directors, I’d love to know how you approached them. What gave you the courage to ask them, and how did you choose them? Were they the right choice? What were your requirements?